When you don’t have a core identity feeling of “I am loved the way I am”, not on a cognitive level, but deep soul level, you become a shapeshifter in love . And - it's not your fault. But your choice to transform it inside of yourself.

When you have this wound, you slowly adapt to what someone wants to see you for - and at some level I believe that happens to all of us. However, it's actually a gift when at some point we can see the depth of this wound - not from the cognitive “I know this pattern” level, but from reaching the deepest roots of that.

The truth is, it may be easier to lose yourself in small ways than it looks on paper.

It may be easy because we long for love, as humans naturally. And also easy because sometimes its - especially when you had this wound - may be easy to gently call shapeshifting “adapting”.

Some of us grew up with life circumstances that REQUIRED us to shape shift in order to “win” or “deserve” love. In order to “achieve it”.

And it is undeniably painful. But times come and you can see your wound as something very liberating - if you choose to see it with your spiritual eyes.

When you choose to fully see it, you no longer are bound to the story of the wound, the doors open and you see clearly where you acted out of it, where you adapted and tolerated absolutely NOT your people. Some of them even (because life matches) perfectly fitting someone who’s trying to play you keys and confuse you even more. But that’s on them. The past is in the past.

If you find yourself thinking “yup, that has been me” - well first of all, there’s nothing wrong with you! That’s the whole point. And its normal to heal in layers, circles and spirals of healing. Unlocking new levels of inner power and truth may come in cycles, not always all at once.

Dear one, You are not sick. With this wound, the healing is not about fixing yourself more or shapeshifting into another “better” version of yourself - unless only for YOU in your way. It’s to get lose. Let go. Allow people to come and go. Strengthening the belief in your capacity to let go people and not make it anything about you. Losing the grip on life and letting in the joy. Oh, there’s so much I could say about this!

But now.. If you feel you've tried to change and shapeshift for “love”, remember - your healing is in remembering that you are in fact - whole and worthy already. Already now. Yes, yes, I know it's easier said than done to have a big internal transformation.

But the healing here is in remembering that You are in fact whole and lovable now! And you start to reclaim it internally by stopping the self abandoning habit. It's when you allow yourself to BE your authentic self, explore this life courageously and remember your power. Choosing inner truth over and over again, and trust me - every time you choose your loyalty to yourself, you'll become 10 0000 x times stronger and happier.... naturally.

The more you tune into your WHOLENESS, your essence, your joy, your loyalty to yourself, the more you 'll remember that love doesn't have to cost you, you. That your love was always inside you, because IT IS you. That you never have to ever abandon yourself for the breadcrumbs of love. Because you are the OCEAN of it.

So come, close your eyes. What's one thing you've been wanting to do? To be? Get support, if needed. And go for it. Gently, slowly if needed. With resistance if you want. But simply choosing YOU.